|Personally I do like the concept of 'sharirik pobitrota' before marriage -I respect and admire Indian value system. At the age of 27/28 when I find most of my unmarried friends are virgin I don't get surprised. Please don't tell me that this is because of not getting any chance of losing it. Most of my friends are staying outside home and having ample opportunities to lose it. This is because of the values they inherit.|
The bondage between husband and wife, brother and sisters in our society are our pride. Hook up, one-night-stand, casual sex—these are the very common word in the western society. Being frustrated of these Hook ups, one-night-stands,casual sex -my western friends are longing for such bondage and long term relationships exist in India..
Those examples from epics mentioned by Bijli are mere epics written by some human beings. They cannot stand as a testimony of the fact
I would like to mention about ‘noshto meyer noshto godyo’ lekhika Taslima . I had a chance to read her autobiography "Ka” ( Speak Up) When I was in Dhaka last year. I am/was not a fan of Taslima Nasrin. Though I didn’t miss any of her books. Right from the 'Nirbachito Kolam’ to 'Nosto Meyer Nost o Gadya', Ammar maye bela.. etc. Her mindset revealed in 'Ka' is consistent with that in other books such as 'Amar Meyebela' and 'Lajja'. I do not subscribe to some of her extremist feminist views, I must admit that I find her writing style quite unique and repect her for not being a Hippocrate.
Taslima discussed about her personal (literary & sex) life in the book. She also touched upon the characters of people she came in touch with. There is a category of people with whom she had sex irrespective of religion or social status. The other category is known as secular (Actually atheists), India-loyal politicians, writers, poets,novelists and cultural artistes. She never had sexual encounters with people who were at odds with her political views. Six persons with whom she had pre and extra-marital sexual affairs were novelist Imdadul Haque Milon, Rudra Mohammad Shahidullah (later her first husband), journalist Naimul Islam Khan (later her second husband)Mohammad Ali Minar aka Minar Mahmud (later her third husband and former Bichinta editor; currently living in the USA), poet Syed HasmaJalal (son of Calcatian litterateur Syed Mustafa Shiraj) and Kaiser (former Gazipur subdistrict chairman). Among the people who wanted to take her to bed were novelist Syed Shamsul Huq, poet Helal Hafiz, journalist Abu Hasan Shahriar, Mozammel Babu, publisher Khoka, et al.Taslima divulged the dark side of the lives of medical practitioner Shipra & Manu, Shipra & Harun, Neepa & Naheed, Farhad Mazhar & Farida Akhter, poet Shamsur Rahman & Oyshwaryashila (a married hindu housewife) and Mriganka (a 21-year old young hindu man) & Sharifa Khatun (a 58-year old woman).The list goes on………….
Bijli wrote “noshto meyer noshto godyo" er lekhikar moto amader somaje aar jayga thake na. Kintu poroborti kale sei somaj i tader sharan kore garbito hoy”…
Being bold and depict one’s personal life for some cheap fame is not a great achievement. This is just a clever attempt to stay on the lime light .Tai “tader sharan kore garbito hoower’ modye aami kuno mohan kichhu khuje pain na.
Aaj jokon sara duniya Indian family system and values niye gobeshona korchhe thokhon those bold ‘Taslima’ and likeminded peoples are playing the extra innings just to stay on focus and create controversy just to sell their concepts. They are backed by the establishments. As Taslima Nasrin is backed by ABP group to make more business.
Taslima mentioned the names of few distinguished people Foremost among them were poet Shamsur Rahman.
Here is bit more information about this great womanizer. In a March-April issue (2003) of a fortnightly magazine, Shamsur Rahman admitted, "Although I was attracted to one woman in the beginning, I used to love all types of women, married or unmarried later in my life. I established sexual relationship with several women. Then I deserted them. I don't believe that one has to marry a woman after loving her. Sometimes I think that it is better to love someone but not marry her. I had 6/7 lovers in my life so far. I am indebted to all of them with whom I had love affairs. They gave me a lot - they enriched my thought process. They helped me to write poems. Love is not bound by age. It is possible to love during old age. Love has a different power. A type of mental strength is required to cope with the surge of strong love. That overpowers the hindrance created by old age." (Daily Inqilab, 22/07/2003).
Those so called intellectuals always defend themselves in the name of free thoughts and mindset like the way poet Shamsur Rahman did.