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Title: sex before marriage
Post by: junel87 on 05/11/05 at 23:31:14
can someone please explain love and sex before marriage


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: junel87 on 05/11/05 at 23:41:13
is it allowed?


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 05/11/05 at 23:45:21
allowed by ?


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: junel87 on 05/11/05 at 23:46:30
yea come on is it allowed before marriage


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: debasish_ch on 05/12/05 at 05:28:29
Sourav, fari laiso. allowed by?? ha ha ha ha

Premasish-re ekta request... ektu monitoring prayojan.. ja ta topic introduce kora hor


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 05/12/05 at 14:52:47
Fulafan ba hera ... fulafan ... buje na ba ...


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Shovon Chakraborty on 05/12/05 at 21:31:12
arre sourav gr8 answer ;D. ar juneil bhai keu jodi na dei teile tumi aamare mail ekta korio. ami kunu magistrate-re diya na hoile panchayat secretary re diya ekta certificate bair koria dimu ne. ;)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 05/12/05 at 21:40:19
Great Shovon ... thik kotha ... Junel, Shovon can manage a certificate for you ... so there will be no legal obligation for you for loving someone before mariage


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: dutta on 05/17/05 at 10:07:59
confused koi re ba, main room o ita kita choler...

okhon tumi contact koro premashish re, topic to lomba cholbo re ba....

oboishho okhon o aamar mote censor korar moto kichhu hoise na...


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: mon_amar on 06/19/05 at 14:56:58
Hey....whats wrong with you guys?? Censor/Certificate er proshno ashchhe keno???Ekhane ki keu description chaichhe naki "how to make love?""

I hope we all are mature, well educated and modern enough!!
I dont find anything wrong in the topic, this is worth discussing, as sex before marriage is not allowed in our society, but nobody can swear upon God that it is not happening in our society.
Its a matter of values and personal perception which is influenced by our society and childhood learnings. If we can discuss among us about drug abuse, then why not this topic??

This issue raised here I believe is highly pychological, and worth discussing.  

Shaak diye machh dhakar obhyash kobe jabe amader?? Gandhiji-r 3 bandor hoye boshe thakle society change hoina.

Thik ai proshno tai kichhudin por amader chhele meye ra proshno korle ki gal parben apnara, aar chup koriye deben?
Oder ke ekta shushtho and logical chinta dhara dayar daitto to amaderi.

Please forgive me my elders if you think I am speaking illogically. But if so, please give me a logic to prove me illogical.

Premashish, oboshyo ei topic ta ke nongra kora tao onek shohoj, tobe ignore kora ta thik noi.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Bijili on 06/19/05 at 17:54:32
Amader desher naam "Bharat" naam hoyeche ki bhabe jano? Onek jug aage "Maharaja Bhorot" name ek Raja chilen jini samasta Aryabarta e rajotto korechilen. Tini pandit, sushil, beer, proja-palok o dharmik chilen ebong tnar naam anusarei amader desher naam "Bharat" hoyeche. Ekhon boloto ei kotha guli ami ekhane keno bolchi? ektu darao, bolchi...

Shokuntalar putra je Bhorot ta jogot bidito. Menoka aar Maharshi Bishwamitrer gandhar Bibaho purbo milonei Shokuntolar janmo hoyechilo. Aar Shokuntola aar Maharaja Dushmanter Bibaho purbo milone janmo hoyechilo Bhoroter, jaar theke amader desher naam koron hoyeche.

Mahabharotei abar bornito aache je kumari Kunti aar Surja deber milone Mahabeer Karner janmo hoyechilo.

Ramayane barnito aache je Kumari Anjana ebong Paban deber sangamei janma hoyechen Mahabir Hanuman.

Mahabharat, Ramayan, Puran ebong Hindu onnanyo dharmo grantha khullei hajare hajare bibaho purbo miloner rati gatha bornito aache. Ek narir ekadhik poti ba premik thakaro proman paoya jaay atit Bharote. Bidhoba ramonir punarbibaher onek proman aache Baidik ebong Pouranik juge. Puraton Bharote je narider onek bishoye purushder somosamoyik adhikar chilo tar khub proman paoya jaay. Bharot jokhon sabhyter swarna shikhire chilo tokhon bortoman kaler poshchatter moto Bharoteo rati bidyar aalochona o gyan prodaan kora hoto. Dharma, sahitya, sthapatya, ittadi onek bishoye i er proman paoya jaay ebong bibaho-purbo ba bibaho poroborti rati sukh ke punya ebong swargiyo sukh bola hoyeche. Bharatborshe je haare rati chorcha koreche se bhabe aar kono sabyata kore ni, emon ki aadhunik poshchatya sabhota o onek pichiye aache sei anujayi.

Kintu Bharoter sei swarna jug nei jokhon Batsayoner moto rishi ra Kamsutrer moto mahakabyo rachana kore sadharon manush ke rati shikkha deyechen kimba sei shilpi rao aar nei jara Kajuraher mandir gatre rati miloner madhur drishyo ke sthapito kore rati miloner porom ananda ke kibhabe sampurno labh kora jaay.

Je kuno dhoroner milon kimba nari puruser milon je shudhu shontan kamonar jonnoi hoy ta hoyto ami bolleo keu bishwas korbe na! Manusher je bishoye gyan thake na aar jodi sei kaaj gyan chara korte jaay, tokhoni manush sei bishiye bhul kore boshe. Taai rati gyan er gyan labh korao atyabarshok. Gyan bythito rati sangam kei manush "paap" bole. Sei sangam bibaho purbo ba poroborti porjayeri houk.  Bortoman kale rati bishoyok onek rokomer sangkramak rug dekha diyeche aar rati gyan er obhabe Bharote er marattok rup dharon koreche. Taai amader deshe rati sammondhe chorcha kora kimba shikkha deoya ati aboshyak.

Rati bishoye bhalo kore jene ebong dui bektir majhe purno biswas aar nijer swastho bojaay rekhe bibaho purbo milone je khoti noy ta budhoy sobai mane. Aar jara agyani tarai rati r moto manob jiboner purnotar chorom porjayer sukh nite giyei bhul kore boshe ta bibaher purbe othoba poroborti kalei houk. Taai je kono somoyei "bhabiya korio kaaj, koriya bhabio na!"

                                                               Iti Bijli :)  


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: mon_amar on 06/19/05 at 18:30:26
Thank you Bijili...I expected that from you.
There is so much to learn from you. :)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: debasish_ch on 06/19/05 at 19:36:07
uri baba... ami ei byapaare oti anabhigga... ebong arbachin... te-o jekhano bitarka sheikhaanei aami... oto kharaap oibbhash nani.

Bijli didi.. kichu mone koro na...  kintu prachin bharatbarsher shob jinishkei je prashangsha korte hobe, eta ki khub jaruri? Kaal bolbe je srikrishna porer bari theke makhan churi kore kheten, meyera chaan korte naamle kaporjama niye paliye jeten, bhagaban raam porer kothay nijer stri-ke barir baire ber kore diyechilen.. egulo-o mene nite hobe naki?

Ramayan Mahabharat-e prachur upakhyan aache je muni rishi ra sundari meye dekhlei... (Ki korten ta ami bolte paarbo na, tumi andaj kore nao). Juger shaathe samajer niyam niti bodle jaay jaani, kintu bhalo jinish gulo ke thaakte dile khoti ki?

Aar mon amar mejdi... eta shaak diye maach dhakar byapaar noy. Amra shobai jaani je amader nagarik sabbhotay pre-marital sex aajkal jal bhaater motoi byapaar hoye geche... kintu she to didi churi dakati pocketmaar bribery khun kidnapping eve-teasing rape shobi prachur matray hoy. Shob-i mene nebo? Samaje hocche bolei mene nebo?

Shobai jodi shaak diye maach dheke ney taaholei to samaj ta shudhre jaabe tai na? Jodi ami aar tumi aar amader aashe paasher shob lokera nijer marjada anushaare chole taholei to jathesto, tai na?

Ki bolo?


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Keats on 06/19/05 at 19:43:18
Virginity. Is it seriously worth it to remain a virgin til marriage? Is the act of sex really that big of a deal? It’s just an act, a satisfaction of a human desire. In a weird way, it’s like food, or going to the bathroom, or sleeping. It’s a human longing. Yet, it can’t JUST be that, because why then would people make such a big deal about it all the time? Isn’t half the reason sex can be so amazing is because of the emotional and the intimate connection you and a partner can feel?

Yet I  don’t want to cheapen sex. I didn’t want to ever have to bring into a bedroom thoughts of previous bedroom experiences and feel compelled to compare the two. I wanted to only know one girl and only have one girl know me.

I no longer think that virginity is a necessary thing to save til marriage. I really think that sex is just a physical longing that is best fulfilled when there is a strong and committed emotional connection between two people.

It all seems so dirty to discuss, so animal-instinctish and irrational, but yet there’s something about feeling as though you know someone enough to allow them permission to your body. It feels good. It feels right. It feels natural.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Bijili on 06/19/05 at 21:47:15
mone nebo keno debashi da? nishchoi nebo na!

Tumi je bolle puran Bharoter sob kichukei ki proshongsa korte hobe ki...tao ami mani. Ram charitra ebong Krishna charitra ke onekei proshno korechen ebong amio kori. Aar ei je muni-rshider kotha bolle tara kintu shudhu pouranik Bharotei noy bortoman Bharoteo aache, Shudhu naam aar mukhosh er betikram. Aar otiter sob kichu niye gaurobh bodh o kori na. Shudhu koyek ta udhahoron diyechilam matro. Udhahoron gulo ke ke kibhabe grohon korbe se taar nijer mononshilotar upor nirbhor koorbe. Somoy shudhu chole jeche kintu Ramayan aar Mahabharoter choritra gulo aajo aache amader somaje. Taai je sob choritro ke loke jane tader diye udahorn dile manush ati sohojei je kono proshner bishoy ta bujte pare.

Udahoron guli diye ami proman korte chechilam je bortoman kaler moto puran Bharoteo bibaho purbo sangamer procholon chilo ebong onek bhabei somaje ta grohon jugyo chilo. Sei bishoye aar atirikto chorcha korte chai na.

Musalmaan der agomonei Bharote rati shikkha hrad hoy ebong Bharoter ati puran rati shikkha ke ashlil akhya kora hoyechilo. Porobotri kale Victorian Ingrejra (Orthodox aar Catholic Christian ra shorir ebong sharorik sammandho ke paap bole, Adam aar Eve apple kheye paap korechilo bole taderke Ishwar lojja-bodh er abhishap deyechilen) jokhon sei bidya niye Bharoter upobone bibinno mandir abishkar korlo tokhon Hindu Dharma o sanskrtir proti Ingrej totha Europiyo der sankirno monobhab chilo.
"In the early period of European explorations of Asia, travelers saw Hindu sacred images as infernal creatures and diabolic multiple-limbed monsters.  The most famous of all stereotypes was that of monsters, presented in books as authentic portrait of Indian gods. From the earliest date the Christian Church had taught that all pagan religions were invented by the devil. The typical reactions of an early Western travelers were bound to reflect certain prejudices stemming from his Christian background as well as total ignorance of Hindu iconography." http://www.atributetohinduism.com/Hindu_Art.htm

Taai tara Bharoter Oislamik stapatya ke marjada dilo aar Hindu stapotto ke oshlil o odharmik ghushona korlo. Agra r Taj Mahal pelo bishwa stapotter morjada aar Madurai er mandir duli pelo oshlilotar aakya.

Bibaher purbe sangam uchit ki anuchit sei siddanto taami pathoker kachei rakhlam. Ami shudhu ei bolte chai je "sex education" ottonto joruri aar ei shikkhake obohela kora ta budhoy bhalo noy. Koyek bochorer majhei Bharote Aids ruger sangkha prithibir majhe sob cheye beshi darabe.

Tumi jemon bolle "juger sathe sathe onek kichui bodle jaay". Sei bodle jaoya take grohon kora ta kintu aboshok. Onekei korte pare na, ota tader nijer bektigoto bepar, aar taar jonnoi somaj ke chai shushto gonotantrik hoyar. karon uttom gonotantrik somaj i sob manush ke ebong manusher chinta aar mononshilota ke bojay rekhe desh ke aar somaj ke egiye niye jaay. Ghun dhora somaje thaka aar ondho bekti ke rasta jigyasa kora eki kotha. Ja somaje hoy ba hocche taake dheke na rekhe sei bishoye chorcha kora ebong hariye jaoya somaj theke udahoron khuje baar kora kharap kichu noy.

Sangomer pobitrota Bharotiyo jibone ranna ghor theke shuru kore mandir porjonto bistarito hoye aache. Shil-nora (patha-puthail) er bebohar moshla bata charao mangolik karje bebohar hoy. Aar ei shil nora sangomer i chinha. Shiv mandirer je pathorer upor Ganga-jol dhala hoy taao Shiv-Parvatir sangam chinha. Ektu chok khullei dekha jaay Bharotiyo somaje ki rokom sangamer udahoran deoya aache. Je sangam chinher upor amra protidin jol dhele puja kori kintu amra ei sangom ke niye charcha korte gelei lojja budh kori. Ei lojja budh ke pechone phele rekhe amader i su-shikkha nite hobe ei manob jiboner akhankhito kamona ke.

"In the Upanishads sexual relationship is described as one of the means of apprehending the divine nature, and throughout oriental literature it is constantly used metaphorically to express the true relationship between the human soul and God." Partha Mitter

Se ta bibaher purbe na pashate seta tumari nirdharon koro...
                                                                  Iti Bijli :)



Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/19/05 at 21:54:58
I'm totally OK with Bijli ... nice post Bijli ... keep it up ..


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: debasish_ch on 06/19/05 at 22:06:46
Well said, Bijli... the sanctity of sexual union was, in addition to Hinduism, also propagated in the pagan cults (Pre-Christian religions, most of which revered feminity). The orthodox church had demolished all those practices. Thus arose the biblical notion of the "Original Sin".

Tumi theek-i bolecho... ei experience ta ke kokhon laabh korte chai ta ekantaoi nijossho byapaar.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: brown_eyes on 06/19/05 at 22:07:38

on 06/19/05 at 19:36:07, debasish_ch wrote:
Bijli didi.. kichu mone koro na...  kintu prachin bharatbarsher shob jinishkei je prashangsha korte hobe, eta ki khub jaruri?


Aar mon amar mejdi... eta shaak diye maach dhakar byapaar noy. Amra shobai jaani je amader nagarik sabbhotay pre-marital sex aajkal jal bhaater motoi byapaar hoye geche... kintu she to didi churi dakati pocketmaar bribery khun kidnapping eve-teasing rape shobi prachur matray hoy. Shob-i mene nebo? Samaje hocche bolei mene nebo?

Shobai jodi shaak diye maach dheke ney taaholei to samaj ta shudhre jaabe tai na? Jodi ami aar tumi aar amader aashe paasher shob lokera nijer marjada anushaare chole taholei to jathesto, tai na?

Ki bolo?


debashish_ch,
I fully conform to your view.
Prachinkaale Bharate jeeban ke koyekta bhage bhag kora hoto-Brohmocharya,garhastya,banprastha abong aashram.Purakaale jemon Bharate onek illicit child er jonmo hoyechhilo,temni brahmacharya o procholito chilo.
Tobe,Brahmachari der seduce korle je taader podoskholon hobe taa to swabhabik,tai noy ki?It is human.
Ekhon Menaka eshe Biswamitra ke prolovito kore jaa korlo taa to aar pre-marital sex ke socity te sanction dey naa.I think in the epics,the human character has been portrayed with all its vices and virtues.
Juge juge aamaader muni rishi ra songjomer kotha prochaar kore gechhen.Udahoron swarup aami Ramkrishna Paramhangsa,Vivekananda er kothaa bolbo.
Ekhono Ramkrishna Missioner sob Moharaaj ra brohmochari hoye thaaken.
Aar Garhastya porjaye,je 'rotisukher' kothaa Bijli likhle,setake seemaar modhhye paowa tai aamader sarthakata.Actually,that is what sets us apart from all other societies.
Aamaader chintadhara oto sthul noy.Bharatiyader songskriti eto unnata je ta sukkha chintar jogaan dey.
But alas,aajkaal westernisation er prokop oto probol je aamra o pre-marital sex ke onumodon korchhi.Ekta shishu ke sustha chinta dharar odhikari kore tolar dayitto oboshyoi Maa babar upore bortaay.
Tai,mon_amar er kotha moto ,they should be given the knowledge of birds and bees at an appropriate age.Oneksomoy ei shob bhul oggota boshota ghote thake.

Sheshe eitai bolbo je,aamaader sangskritir utkorsho aamaader 'custom' aamaader 'taboo' thekei aashe.
Aadhunikotaar naame taake noshto naa korai bhalo.
Aami shudhu aamar motamot byakto korlaam.
No offence meant to anyone :).


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: debasish_ch on 06/19/05 at 22:17:35
In continuation to brown eyes (tain abaar Borda kila hoila? Jethima hoile te-o mana jaito).

Its not that sex education is the most important question in front of our children these days. Tell me folks, how many of you had your parents explaining birds and bees to you? We all learnt it the wrong way, right?

But still, inspite of learning this the wrong way, we continued to tread on the right path. The reason was that our parents could inject into us the basic moral values... and the morality of s** (I hate uttering that word so often) is not different from any other values that you treasure.

So what I guess is that if you can keep your basic values and morality in place, s** and everything would also continue to go on the right track... and in addition, you would never cheat in exams, never do any harm to your friends, never mistreat the weak... so on and so forth.

Open for discussion and comments... (I really miss kigoobe here).


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: ^_^ on 06/19/05 at 22:20:45


on 06/19/05 at 22:07:38, brown_eyes wrote:
Sheshe eitai bolbo je,aamaader sangskritir utkorsho aamaader 'custom' aamaader 'taboo' thekei aashe.
Aadhunikotaar naame taake noshto naa korai bhalo.
Aami shudhu aamar motamot byakto korlaam.
No offence meant to anyone :).


keep it up Brown_eyes


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Keats on 06/19/05 at 22:34:08
Well guys forget everything! The thread, the discussion and the topic, its morality and the relevance of sex education, the need to rinse yourself of the evils etc., etc.,


What is good and what is bad, what is right and what is wrong? Isn't that very apparent and who is the one whom we have appointed as the authority to judge the morality of a proposition?

Please excuse me if my post hurts anyone, but lets for once and all shed our hypocritic mask. We all are not sure about our values, and the forbidden and the taboo always attracts. Stop pointing out loopholes, in the value system, and also taking the good out of the puddle of mud and things like that.

The fact that we are not sure about our value system is the reason this thread is being updated with such a fervour. (I too am not excluded).

There is a saying that, if you have five fingers on your hand and you land up on a land where its normal to have six on a hand, then you are the odd one out. Thereby, like everything values and virtues are also apparent and are influenced by the society we live in to a great extent. Some of us are proponents and some laggards, or the ones who folow the bandwagon.

Individually we are lost. The TABOO still attracts. So, let values of virtue and vice be individualistic.

Maybe, I am wrong, but I am sure this is a train of thought, and I don't care if I am the only one who believes this.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Bijili on 06/19/05 at 23:28:00
Ja kichu amader somaje nei ba ek somay chilo, sei bishoy ba bostu niye alochona kimba nij desher itihash othoba onno jatir somaj theke udahoron ber kore chorcha kora ta kokhonoi kharap mone kori na. amra je bishoye kotha bolchi ei rokom bishoy charao onnonyo bishoy ache jekhane bortoman kaler Bharotiyo mononshilota chot khay. Bharoter manush ki kuno din keu bibaher purbe sangam kore ni? 1.2 billion jonotar majhe jodi keu kore thake tahole ki sei bekti ke amra "bad influence of West" bolbo jodio sei bekti gramer ek krishok hoy je kono din television dekhe ni? Somaje totha kothito "asamajik" ja kichu hoy, taake na dheke sei bishoy niye chorcha kora tao ki "Western influence" hoye gelo? West er sob kichui je kharap ta to satyo noy, amra onek kichui shikhte pari tader kach theke. Bharotiyo somaj je "Ganga joye dhoya tulsi pata" tao to aar thik noy. Jati-prothar moto ghrinno prothao amader unnoto somaje ajo aache. Aar bibaho purbo sangam Bharot ki, prithibir sob somajei chilo, ache ebong thakbe. Eta kono "western" kichui noy. Prithibir je sob somaj ei dhoroner sangam ke mene niyeche sei sob somaj kichu din ageo onek ruddho chilo. Sei sob somaj keno mene niyeche seta ke drishtayito kora ki Bharotiyo sanskritir ullonghon kora hobe na ki ei bishoye amder motobaad ta aaro phol-proshu hobe? Aaj kaal ekta cholon esche je somaje tothakothito "mondo" bishoy niye kotha bolle loke bolbe "gaat modern haoya laagche", jemon gaye bhut lage temni. Sobai bhoy kore chole tader, Sandkamok byadhir moto. Ei sob "mondo chele meye" ra taai "noshto meyer noshto godyo" er lekhikar moto amader somaje aar jayga thake na. Kintu poroborti kale sei somaj i tader sharan kore garbito hoy.

                                                            iti bijli


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Keats on 06/19/05 at 23:43:01
Wonderful! Thats it ;D ;D


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: loverboy on 06/20/05 at 03:29:14
Hello everyone, my opinion about premarital sex is that there is nothing wrong in it but the pleasure of losing your virginity to the person and too on your wedding night has a totally different charm in itself. I am neither married not a virgin and I was very okay with the concept of pre marital sex but then my girl friend made me realize that the is some charm or rather pleasure that should be taken only after marraige otherwise what is the point in getting married. We have been together lot of times and have shared some intimate moments also but we were very sure of one thing that we are not going to have sex before marraige and had also made sure about one thing that during these intimate moments, if one of us loses control, other controls and in most of the occasion it has been that I was the one who controlled her and she respects me for that. She always said, "If you give a finger to a boy, he tries to penetrate" but after she met me and all the moments we have had with each other, she tell me that her perception about boys is wrong to an extent and to top it she says that there is a lot of difference between a boy friend and a husband coz she always regards me as her husband and she loves ro celebrate each and every incident where she lost control but I controlled her. She knows that I've had sex earlier but as of today, she makes me feel like a VIRGIN.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Debabrata on 06/20/05 at 14:10:25

on 06/19/05 at 23:28:00, Bijili wrote:
"noshto meyer noshto godyo" er lekhikar moto amader somaje aar jayga thake na. Kintu poroborti kale sei somaj i tader sharan kore garbito hoy.


Personally I do like the concept of 'sharirik pobitrota' before marriage -I respect and admire Indian value system. At the age of 27/28 when I find most of my unmarried friends are virgin I don't get surprised. Please don't tell me that this is because of not getting any chance of losing it. Most of my friends are staying outside home and having ample opportunities to lose it. This is because of the values they inherit.

The bondage between husband and wife, brother and sisters in our society  are our   pride. Hook up, one-night-stand, casual sex—these are the very common word in the western society. Being  frustrated of these Hook ups, one-night-stands,casual sex -my western friends are longing for such bondage and long term relationships exist in India..

Those examples from   epics mentioned by Bijli are mere epics written by some human beings. They cannot stand as a testimony of the fact

I would like to mention about ‘noshto meyer noshto godyo’ lekhika  Taslima . I had a chance to read her autobiography "Ka” ( Speak Up) When I was in Dhaka last year. I am/was not a fan of Taslima Nasrin. Though I didn’t miss any of her books. Right from  the 'Nirbachito Kolam’ to 'Nosto Meyer Nost o Gadya', Ammar maye bela.. etc. Her mindset revealed in 'Ka' is consistent with that in other books such as 'Amar Meyebela' and 'Lajja'. I do not subscribe to some of her extremist feminist views, I must admit that I find her writing style quite unique and repect her for not being a Hippocrate.


Taslima discussed about her personal (literary & sex) life in the book. She also touched upon the characters of people she came in touch with. There is a category of people with whom she had sex irrespective of religion or social status. The other category is known as secular (Actually atheists), India-loyal politicians, writers, poets,novelists and cultural artistes. She never had sexual encounters with people who were at odds with her political views. Six persons with whom she had pre and extra-marital sexual affairs were novelist Imdadul Haque Milon, Rudra Mohammad Shahidullah (later her first husband), journalist Naimul Islam Khan (later her second husband)Mohammad Ali Minar aka Minar Mahmud (later her third husband and former Bichinta editor; currently living in the USA), poet Syed HasmaJalal (son of Calcatian litterateur Syed Mustafa Shiraj) and Kaiser  (former Gazipur subdistrict chairman). Among the people who wanted to take her to bed were novelist Syed Shamsul Huq, poet Helal Hafiz, journalist Abu Hasan Shahriar, Mozammel Babu, publisher Khoka, et al.Taslima divulged the dark side of the lives of medical practitioner Shipra & Manu, Shipra & Harun, Neepa & Naheed, Farhad Mazhar & Farida Akhter, poet Shamsur Rahman & Oyshwaryashila (a married hindu housewife) and Mriganka (a 21-year old young hindu man) & Sharifa Khatun (a 58-year old woman).The list goes on………….

Bijli wrote “noshto meyer noshto godyo" er lekhikar moto amader somaje aar jayga thake na. Kintu poroborti kale sei somaj i tader sharan kore garbito hoy”…

Being bold and depict one’s personal life for some cheap fame is not a great achievement. This is just  a clever attempt to stay on the lime light .Tai  “tader sharan kore garbito hoower’ modye aami kuno  mohan  kichhu  khuje pain na.

Aaj jokon sara duniya Indian family system and values niye gobeshona korchhe thokhon those bold ‘Taslima’ and likeminded peoples are playing the extra innings just to stay on focus and create controversy just to sell their concepts. They are backed by the establishments. As Taslima Nasrin is backed by ABP group to make more  business.


Taslima mentioned the names of few distinguished people  Foremost among them were poet Shamsur Rahman.
Here is bit more information about this great womanizer. In a March-April issue (2003) of a fortnightly magazine, Shamsur Rahman admitted, "Although I was attracted to one woman in the beginning, I used to love all types of women, married or unmarried later in my life. I established sexual relationship with several women. Then I deserted them. I don't believe that one has to marry a woman after loving her. Sometimes I think that it is better to love someone but not marry her. I had 6/7 lovers in my life so far. I am indebted to all of them with whom I had love affairs. They gave me a lot - they enriched my thought process. They helped me to write  poems. Love is not bound by age. It is possible to love during old age. Love has a different power. A type of mental strength is required to cope with the surge of strong love. That overpowers the hindrance created by old age." (Daily Inqilab, 22/07/2003).

Those so called intellectuals always defend themselves in the name  of free thoughts and mindset like the way poet Shamsur Rahman did.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: mon_amar on 06/20/05 at 15:32:23
Dear Respected silchar.com members,

"Sex before marriage"
the topic was dead in a way, last sunday it revived and then given birth to a debate. It was great to know what you feel.
Really very much astonished to see people hating to utter or write the word "sex":o

I would like to share what i feel about that. :)

I do feel that sex before or after marriage is only your personal choice.  Its you who is going to decide, not the society. Sex and love making is two totally different things.
Sex is something like hunger, maintaining natures call etc. Its a hormone in your/my body.

I have a habit of speaking out clearly what I believe in.
So I would tell you freely what I feel. Sex is beautiful when it is love making. You are giving your body to the person you love and this way you surrender to your love with all your mind body and soul. And when it is only sex, it is just an animal instinct and nothing else.

Marriage as an institution has many loopholes. I dont trust that every marriad couple are making love just becouase they are married and all the unmarried people who lost their varginity to the person they love were only having sex.
(by now I hope you understand what I mean by making love and having sex).What you call those physical relationship which have no love at all and they have sex just because they have social acceptance. This seems so ridiculous to me.
I call them  legalised prositution.

Sex when only for the sake of sex with no love and the sense of commitment is always dirty, cheap. I loath the concept of sex. No matter if it is before marriage and after marriage.

Love making, with love and complete surrender, which I think is Devine. I would die for that...before marriage or after marriage.

There is a vast difference between Having sex and making love. I hope I could explain my point. :)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: TaarCheera on 06/20/05 at 17:28:52
good discussion. onekta adha glass jol er moto..key koirokom dekhbai itar upre depend kore..

Browny tumar lekha porle Shakespear+Rabindranath ekloge uddhar hoi jai...onekta cha bananir somoi jela chini aar dudhe misi jai ola obosta..joto somoi duitar porimaan soman thake cha uttam hoi aar ekta besi ba kom hoile tokhon ... ;D

maane rey tumi tumi raag koreo na rey..banglai ila sadhu aar cholti bhasa milaile koi guruchondali , english aar bangla misaile kita jani koibo? any idea aami-S?

:) TC


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: mon_amar on 06/20/05 at 19:01:02
Bangreji?? ??? :o


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Keats on 06/20/05 at 20:20:12
Benglish!!! ;D ;D ;D


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: brown_eyes on 06/20/05 at 21:11:41

on 06/20/05 at 17:28:52, TaarCheera wrote:
good discussion. onekta adha glass jol er moto..key koirokom dekhbai itar upre depend kore..

Browny tumar lekha porle Shakespear+Rabindranath ekloge uddhar hoi jai...onekta cha bananir somoi jela chini aar dudhe misi jai ola obosta..joto somoi duitar porimaan soman thake cha uttam hoi aar ekta besi ba kom hoile tokhon ... ;D

maane rey tumi tumi raag koreo na rey..banglai ila sadhu aar cholti bhasa milaile koi guruchondali , english aar bangla misaile kita jani koibo? any idea aami-S?

:) TC


It is really harsh on your part Taarcheera ??? ??? ???.

Some words are better expressed in English.That's why I did it.

I merely jotted down what my opinion is.But you guys started attacking personally.

You want me to find faults with your postings?I can do that.

I have my right to express what I feel unless Admin asks me not to(as it is his website).

I don't care if someone calls me 'Jethima' or whatever.

It is hightime to take a break,I guess.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: PootlaNo1 on 06/20/05 at 21:15:25
eetare koi pootlami... tumire... brown_eyes bujhona.. !!


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Bijili on 06/20/05 at 21:59:59

on 06/20/05 at 21:11:41, brown_eyes wrote:
I merely jotted down what my opinion is.But you guys started attacking personally.


its true. we shouldn't attack anyone personally. everyone have right to express the way they want. i live in london but most of the time prefer to write in bengali; like that i can prectice the language.
we should be discussing on the subject and not picking on each other but learn from one another.  

                                             be happy :D


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: debasish_ch on 06/20/05 at 22:38:33


on 06/20/05 at 21:11:41, brown_eyes wrote:
I merely jotted down what my opinion is.But you guys started attacking personally.
I don't care if someone calls me 'Jethima' or whatever.


Hey, none of us meant any offence, I guess! The type of discussion under this thread is such that emotions may fly high at certain times... but I guess we need to handle it with care.

No offence meant to anybody... nobody wanted to hurt anybody's sentiments.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Debabrata on 06/21/05 at 00:13:50


on 06/20/05 at 21:59:59, Bijili wrote:
its true. we shouldn't attack anyone personally. everyone have right to express the way they want. we should be discussing on the subject and not picking on each other but learn from one another.  


Ditto Bijili...hope tumi o aamar lekha te kharap paiso na...


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Bijili on 06/21/05 at 02:27:45
ekdom na debabrata, borong khushi hoisi. amio maze maze khub tita kotha koi kintu ja thik mone kori taai sob somay koi. tumar lekha poriya onek kisu lekhar uddeshyo asil kalke thakiya kintu hate ektuko somoy naai. somoy hoile lekhmu... kintu mone kicchu niyo na, ager thaki koiram... :)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/21/05 at 03:18:53
Ektu mone hoi derite dhuklam ... amio ei kothai koi, personal attack jinishta ekdom thik na ... I hope that the whole thing was a misunderstanding ... amio maje maje kichu ulta palta kotha lekhi laitam chai ... kintu fore abar edit kori ...

Well, I didn't read upto the beginning, but I think in this kind of situation the best is to trace the root ... like, if somebody is hurt due to me, and if I haven't done that intentionally, I can easily come out to break the 'tala' of misunderstanding ... few words do magic often ...

Cheers.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/21/05 at 03:26:23
ei matro forlam ... ita to TC - r kotha thaki sob sure ... are dhuro ba tumra sob-o  je kita ... TC to bhalo chele, amra sobe tare chini ... he ita moja koriya koise ... bujau jar ...


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: TaarCheera on 06/21/05 at 12:53:29
Sorry, brown_eyes . I never tried to attack u personally. I did that just for fun. Anyway, next time I'll not do this. No one is perfect. So u can always  find out faults in my posting.
"Perfection can not be improved" dil chahata hai er ekta Dialogue.

I am really very sorry. You pl. keep writing in this mahaadda. I promise I'll not repeat the same.

:) TC


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Keshto on 06/21/05 at 14:04:54
Hehek....TC Saab....saalam saab...good sky....

Aap ke liye mera tin salah....

ek....Mazak same frequency ka banda se karo...nahi to accident ho janekko chance rahela...iss topic ka jaissa

do....Daru peena to akele piyo..mere jaissa...

tin....Mera salah mano....

Hehek...


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: mon_amar on 06/21/05 at 14:06:31
Me too sorry brown_eyes, Bangrezi bolar jonno....tobe nichhok mozar chholei bole chhilam, just ekta word Bangali+Ingrezi=Bangrezi ;D

Do not mind please!!! And Dont think of taking a brk. Adda ta noshto hoye jabe. :)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/21/05 at 17:08:00
Topic ta interesting ... kintu ami ekta jinish koimu, that I think as I spoke in the other thread of Seculiarism, here also we are having one problem in defining sex ... or should I say, the topic of this thread ... what it is ? Sex before mariage, or Sexual relationship with a different person before mariage !!!

Bujram tumrar bhuru kuchker, but according to me, these two are totally different topic as Mon_amar told Sex and Love making are two different things (and I totally agree with her as well ... I will tell sex is more a physical desire, and love making satisfies both emotional and physical needs) ... see, what we are speaking about in this thread is more Sexual relationship with a different person before mariage and not Sex before mariage ...

Bujlai na ... why the topic can't be Sex before mariage, as each and everybody of us are or have been involved in 'Sex before mariage' in their life ... if not, then what u do when u masterbate ?? What u do when u see sexually exited movie and then find urself wet ?? What u do when a particular dream or thought make urself hot and u end up wetting urself !!! And even what u do when u look at somebody and murmur to urself 'Aha-re...'.

Food and sex are the two very basic needs around which the whole animal kingdom including human being is surviving ... [and they are need as these are the basis of survival for any animal ... ektai bortoman jibon re bachaiya rakhe aar arektai bhobishyot-er projonmo re swagotom janai ... aar ei dui taar modhye jekuno ekta bondho oi gele oi projati prithibir buk thaki bilupto oi jaibo ... ] these are the two basic things which are the reason of everything, what we see around us, directly and indirectly, and none of them, neither sex nor food we can ignore in our life as they are 'so natural' and simply because we can't survive ignoring any of these two.

I know there are ppl who have been brought up with a  strong 'Islamic education' (as Bijli has rightly pointed out before, this very mentality is a Muslim mentality and we are just following what they taught us during their 400 yrs of 'rajotto' ... and here lies the paradox, most of the Hindus won't be proud to know that they are just following the Muslim way of life by keeping aside our very own culture and values which were a part of our life for more then 9000 years ... and they are still doing it ... and worst, now they are believeing that its their own culture and proudly telling that they are pround of this.) feel like a criminal even to mustarbate and hide it as if they r hiding committing a murder ... and I will tell if there is really anybody who can tell that he / she has avoided / avoiding all sorts of sexual activities after reaching puberty and till a certain 'ceremony' they are nothing but sick ppl (either physically as they don't feel the need .. something like someone who don't feel hungry, or mentally as they controlling one's basic nature to that extent (which is only possible when u consider sex as a sin) can't be considered natural and if not treated properly, can give serious complications even in the post mariatal life ... ) and they should visit doctors .. either a doctor who can check the hormonal balance of the person or a psychotherapist who can treat them by making them understand, that both food and sex are basic needs and neither of them can be considered as a sin.

So here I conclude the first part ... Sex is a part of life that can't be denied ... before or after whatever ... comments welcome ... and let's move towards the second part ...

Sexual activity with someone before mariage ... Well, this is a different topic ... but here we go ...

Considering u r somebody normal (both physically and mentally) and more or less active sexually (with or without involving another person) ... we can have two type of people ...
1. Those who go for sexual liason
2. Those who don't do it really, but keep on dreaming ...

Coming to the second group (as they is no point to debate with the first group ... they know what they r doing) ... keeping aside the 'Muslim' values that I have discussed before, let's see what are the practical reasons for behaving as a member of the second group and not of the first (as after all, there is not that much difference between the two ... like some one who goes for a morning walk everyday and someone who would like to, but can't really make it for this or that reason ... after all, both are mentally prepared and difference is just in the execution).

1. Unavailability of a possible partner with whom they can exercise what they want without any fear.
2. Unavailability of a suitable and practical place where they can do what they want
3. Fear of being termed as a bad person in the society
4. Fear of post-marital complications, like what the future partner will think if they come to know of their pre marital liasons ... (which is more appropriate with our female friends) .. another negative side of the 400 yrs of Muslim rule (of course Hindu bridegrooms don't put a white tissue to check the virginity of their wife like their Muslim counterparts, but we can't deny how important it is in our society to find the wife as a virgin)
5. Men and women both maintain their own group of friends and don't mix with each other enough as they would had they believed in the equality of sex ...

Well, I'm not a psychologist, so there might be other reasons as well what obliges somebody for not going for the morning walk even if they want it (those who don't want, as told, are sick and seriously need to see a doctor as soon as possible) ... but what I will tell, is there really a difference between the two groups !!! And then, if all the 5 reasons for being in the second group doesn't exist, will there be as many people as now in the second group ?? ?? ??

Conclusion, I will repeat the same as Mon-amar has told before ... it should be a personal choice ... and till u are not sick and maintaining a healthy sexual life in an alternative method (masterbation, etc), there is nothing to worry about and one can wait till the mariage for not complicating the post marital life, from a social point of view.

Cheers.

PS. A lot may not agree with me, but as told before, comments welcome ...


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: brown_eyes on 06/21/05 at 21:27:28
It's o.k TC,mon_amar :D.
Reading TC's posting was the first thing I did after getting up.So,I was a bit upset :-X.Besides I was afraid that this thread was turning into 'Moner moto Hindi Cinema' where my leg was being pulled horribly.Sorry guys,if I overreacted.
So far as taking a break is concerned,I also cannot spend a day without visiting silchar.com once :D.
I just wanted to see if you guys like my company.
It seems you do.
Do you remember that 'cadbury' advertisement song?
"Ruthe logo ko manana chahiye."
So,you must have got the hint.
TC,mon_amar,I want a cadbury ;).
By the way,my post is Hinglish now(Hindi+English).
And FYI,Sourav dar uprer post tao Benglish kintu.
TC ekhon kow aamaar post a kita(aami kintu Hindi,Bangla,English tinta i lekhsi). ;D ;D ;D ;D


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: debasish_ch on 06/21/05 at 21:29:53
Kicchu ekta kowar khub iccha asil... haate paaye chulchuli korer... kintu dinkaal kharap... moner kotha mone thakai bhalo.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/21/05 at 21:52:55
Bah bah Brown ... welcome back ... irokom dekhle bhala lage ... sobai miliya haat milaiya 'firse dost'.

And great spirit, TC and Mon_Amar ...

French-e koy, Bravo.

;) ami chairta bhasha milaiya lekhlam aarki! ... itar nam kita oito ? Frengalindi (suniya jodiyo Hailakandi Hailakandi lage sunte) kemon lage sunte ??? (French, English, Bengali and Hindi

;D ;D ;D


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Keats on 06/21/05 at 22:25:15
Hey please forgive me Browny if I hurt you. I did not mean to hurt you.  :( :( :(


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/21/05 at 22:34:35
eirokom oito nai Keats ... Brown e kita koise suncho nani ? Cadbury loiya aao ... tarfore taai sunbo tumar kotha ...  ;)  ;D


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: mon_amar on 06/21/05 at 23:05:01
Badami Chokhh, Cadbury ta kothai pathabo??  ???
1,2, 3 Cadbury tomar paona.... :D

Saurabh da....thik bolechho...mishti diye dosti abar shuru... :D


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Debabrata on 06/22/05 at 00:38:07


on 06/21/05 at 21:29:53, debasish_ch wrote:
Kicchu ekta kowar khub iccha asil... haate paaye chulchuli korer... kintu dinkaal kharap... moner kotha mone thakai bhalo.



monor kotha mono e thakuk...  :( :(


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/22/05 at 00:47:52

Quote:
Saurabh da....thik bolechho...mishti diye dosti abar shuru...
yep ... no more mara mari ... ekhon sudhu hash hashi ..


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: brown_eyes on 06/22/05 at 02:08:35
mon_ amar,
Sob thik aachhe,aamaar cadbury koi ???
ota naa pathale aami aabaar raag kore nebo >:(
Taratari pathao.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: mon_amar on 06/22/05 at 02:43:53
Laag kolena mona!!!  :)bolo kothai pathabo?? ami to address chaichhi...


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Bijili on 06/22/05 at 03:56:49

on 06/20/05 at 14:10:25, Debabrata wrote:
Personally I do like the concept of 'sharirik pobitrota' before marriage -I respect and admire Indian value system. At the age of 27/28 when I find most of my unmarried friends are virgin I don't get surprised. Please don't tell me that this is because of not getting any chance of losing it. Most of my friends are staying outside home and having ample opportunities to lose it. This is because of the values they inherit.

Hook up, one-night-stand, casual sex—these are the very common word in the western society. Being  frustrated of these Hook ups, one-night-stands,casual sex -my western friends are longing for such bondage and long term relationships exist in India.. "


Debabrata, amio biswas kori je Bharotiyo somporke je ekta pobitrota aache se bhai-boner majhei houk othoba pitamata-santan majhei houk ba poti-patnir majhei houk. Samporker majhe je ei pobitrota ta kebol Bharotei dekha jaay. Guru-shisher majhe je ishwarik pobitrota tao bharote lokkho kora jaay. Shastra boleche..."Guru Brahma, Guru Vishnu, Gurudeva Maheshwara...". Swami-sti r majheo je pobirtota aache ta shudhu Bratotei dekha jaay. Bharoter narira tader swamike debota gyane puja kore, se poti maatal houk, gunda houk, potibrota narir kache taar poti debota-tulya! Bharoter potira taai khub bhgyobaan!

Bideshe je shudhu chele-meyera "kamang dehi" bole rasta ghate dhure ba bideshe kono paribarik sammondhe madhurjo nei ta nitantoi bhul. Amader theke alada bole je oi somaj ta nindoniyo ta thik noy. Amaro onek Ingrej bandhu-bandhob aache jara "one night stands, Casual sex" ekdom pochondo kore na. Ta nishchoi je, ekhane ei dhoroner sangam somaje nindoniyo noy karon ekhane somaj jonosadharonke nijer bektitto nejekei sajiye tulte utsaho dey. Bektigoto swadhinotar aar mononshilotar maan ekhane khub beshi, aar taai sangomer moto bektigoto bepar somaj noy, ekhane nijerai thik kore je kokhon poaya uchit; bibaher purbe kina pore.
Aar ami amar ager post guloteo bolechi je manob jiboner ei sundor anondo ta ke ja amra amader priyotomo manusher sathe anubhob kori ta amra kokhon ba kibhabe korbo ta nitantoi bektigoto. Prottek bektir se swadhinota ta thaka uchit.  

Debabrata, tumi bolecho ..."Those examples from   epics mentioned by Bijli are mere epics written by some human beings. They cannot stand as a testimony of the fact"

Ei bishoye ektai kotha bolbo je amader somaje emon Yudhistir ra aachen jara sob kichu dharma diye jachai koren. Tader jonno jodi ektu dharma pustak theke tulona na deoya hoy ta hole jaai bolo na keno oder chokhe "Mahabharat ashuddho" aar "sex" er kotha to aladai. Aar amader majhe emon manush prochur aache jara Drupodir bastra-haran dekhe krodhe dukkhe chokher jol phele. abar ei eki manush Gopi der bastra haran dekhe anande ottohasi dey.  Ei amader bichar! Bharoter bhogoban nijer boner lojja nibaran koren aar onno meyeder bastra haran koren. Amrao sei rokom, "sex" shobdo ta mukhe ante pari na ba bibaher purbe "sex" korteo pari na, amra sobai "lokkhi-cheler-dol". "joto dosh, nando-ghosh"!

Amader somaj je Ramayan, Mahabharat, Geeta, ittadi dharma pustaker adorsho thake gore utheche ta to sobai manbe, aar ei somajer kono ekta bishoyer byakkhake sampurno korar jonno jodi ei sob dharma pustaker kono charitra theke udaharan nei, se kalponik houk, tate kkhoti ki?
Ek somoy chilo jokhon Bharoter nari ra nijeder swami nijerai pochondo korto kintu aaj jodi Bharatiyo somaj meyeder nijer swami pochondo korar sikriti dey, ta hole ki amra mene nebo je eta Western influence na ki mone korbo Bharotiyo nari jagoroner punorutthan? Ja amder ek somoy chilo ta jodi punoray phire ashe take bairer influence na bole nijeder sanskritir punoruddhar bolai bhalo aar se bishoye gorbo bodh korao uchit.


Tumi abar bolecho..."Being bold and depict one’s personal life for some cheap fame is not a great achievement. This is just  a clever attempt to stay on the lime light .Tai  “tader sharan kore garbito hoower’ modye aami kuno  mohan  kichhu  khuje pain na."

Jokhon Begum Rukeya Bangali Musalmaan meeyeder Inraji shikkha dite shuru korechilen, tokhon thik emni bhabei Begum Rukeya ke niye manush chorcha korechilo. Kintu aaj Bangladesh er je kono girl's schoolo er samne Begum Rukeyar abokkho murti protistito aache. Notun jugantori kichu korte gele je totha kothito adorsho somaj kichu na kichu bolbe ta bola bahulya. Kintu taai bole jara somaje poriborton ghotate chay tara pichiye thake na. "marile kolosir kana, taai bole ki prem debo na"!  

Tumi abar bolecho je ..."Aaj jokon sara duniya Indian family system and values niye gobeshona korchhe thokhon those bold ‘Taslima’ and likeminded peoples are playing the extra innings just to stay on focus and create controversy just to sell their concepts. They are backed by the establishments. As Taslima Nasrin is backed by ABP group to make more  business. "

Ghun dhora somaje ja sob niyom procholito aache, taar theke Kono kichu alada korte gelei "mondo" upadhi paoya jaay. Aar meye hole to kothai nei. Upomohadeshe joto mohila prodhanmantri ba desh-neta hoyechen, prithibir onnotro budhoy aar temon mohilara kono desh ba jatir neta hoy naai. Taai bole ki mone korbo je Bharotiyo Upomahadeshe nari adhikar prithibir onnotro desher tulonay beshi? Taslima Nasriner moto "sex" niye khula mela bhabe lekhar sahosh khub kom meyederi aache, emon ki purush dero. "sex" er je jorota amader somaje aache ta dur korar jonno aar "sex" er je ekta joghonno aar pashobik dik aache ja nari ebong purush ke dhabito kore ta Taslima Nasrin taar bibhinno motamote bujhiye diyechen.

Cleopatra ke sobai jane je atibo sundori aar purusher kameccha nibaron kari asadharon nari jaar moto sundori aar prithibite janmay ni. Kintu keu ki mone rakhe je Cleoparta taar somoyer koto boro bidushi nari chilen? Alexandria r library jokhon purechilo, Cleopatra i nijer kkhomota dwara sei Greek der darshonnattik pustak guli purarlikhon korechilen ja amra aaj porte pacchi. Kintu manush sei ramonir ei sob kotha mone rakhe na, shudhu mone rakhe taar sundorjjo aar taar sangan-shaktir kotha!  

Sheshe ei bolbo je amader somaj ati unnoto aar take ektu aaro unnoto korte bidesh thake noy nijeder hariye jaoya oitijjoke phiriye anlei hobe! Bharoter sankriti eto norom noy je bairer je kono poristhiti tunka delei je laal hoye jabe. Bharot Prithibike sob somoy aalo dekhiyeche ebong dekhabe kintu ei alo jeno bikosh*to hoy taar dayotto amader moto Bharoter nobo jobok-jubotirai palon korbe. Ami amar onno post e bolechilam je Gandhi bolechilen "no culture can survive if its try to be exclusive" Taai amader sob kichukei jante hobe aar bujhte hobe. Nijer desher sankritike baire raptani korte hobe aar porer sanskritike nijer deshe amdani korte hobe. Taai Rabindranath bolechile..."Pashchime aji khuliyache dwar, setha hote sobe aane upohaar. Debe aar nibe, milabe milibe, jabe na phire, ei Bharoter mahabanober sagor tire".            

 Iti Bijli :)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Keshto on 06/22/05 at 12:01:45
Hehek....namaste memsaab...good sky....

on 06/21/05 at 21:27:28, brown_eyes wrote:
By the way,my post is Hinglish now(Hindi+English).
And FYI,Sourav dar uprer post tao Benglish kintu.
TC ekhon kow aamaar post a kita(aami kintu Hindi,Bangla,English tinta i lekhsi). ;D ;D ;D ;D


Iss ka jawab..TC saab ke liye mein deta hoon...hehek

Do jawab hain...
ek...Hidol
do...Soch na parela baap...Soch ke bataunga...

Mera ek salah suno..sab saab memsaab log...hehek

Iss topic ka koi ant nahi...jaissa Iss Raat ka Subah nahi..hehek

Ab puchho to...Aap bologe...hehek..Keshto kuchh mat piyo
Bijli memsaab bolegi...Keshto..Purane Zamane me Muni Hrishi bagera bagera kuchh na kuchh peete the..Brahma Vishnu ne yeh peeya.. Nehru ne woh peeya..iti bijli...hehek
Dracula saab bolega...Keshto...blood peeyo..pure blood
TC saab bolega..Keshto..aa ja mera ghar..rassam pilayunga
Debabrata saab bolega..Keshto..sirf shudhh ganga jal nimbu ke sath peena..
Mon_amar memsaab bolegi..Keshto..yeh le dus rupayya..Pepsi pee le

Lekin.....hehek...lekin..Keshto ko pata hain kya peenese kab peenese kaissa nasha hota hain..hehek


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: mon_amar on 06/22/05 at 15:08:47


on 06/22/05 at 12:01:45, Keshto wrote:
Mon_amar memsaab bolegi..Keshto..yeh le dus rupayya..Pepsi pee le

Lekin.....hehek...lekin..Keshto ko pata hain kya peenese kab peenese kaissa nasha hota hain..hehek



Keshto da....ami pepsi/Cold drinks  khaina...I will say sharab chhorke fruit juice peee lo :)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: ^_^ on 06/22/05 at 16:00:33

on 06/22/05 at 12:01:45, Keshto wrote:
Iss topic ka koi ant nahi...jaissa Iss Raat ka Subah nahi..hehek


Kesto kaku thanx for the sala !! what you guys think abt this gr88 sala regarding this topic??

Bijili..  tumaar post porle kene jaani tumare khub 'darshonik darshonik' mone hoi.. mone hoi u r not like the xyz.Bastober tumi aar tumar post kene jaani mone  hoy duita shotta. tumaar 'dhi' tumaar 'chetona' tumar 'budh' tumaar thakiya o mohan !! Tumai Pronam kori didi!

kintu .. 'Begam Rukeya" aar 'Toslima '- togather??? I won't buy this Bijili didi.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Enigma on 06/22/05 at 17:10:44
this is really a personal choice....as TC said a glass with half filled water,  your perception matters here only.


Its me  :)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Bijili on 06/22/05 at 18:21:48


on 06/22/05 at 16:00:33, ^_^ wrote:
kintu .. 'Begam Rukeya" aar 'Toslima '- togather??? I won't buy this Bijili didi.


Begum Rukeya sathe Taslimar tulona korsi na dada. tarar jibon aar jiboner disha sumpurno bhinno. Begum Rukeyar naam ta loisi karon taino joro somajer choukh khulat giya bout opodosto hoisla. mainshe chinta korto parse na je Musalmaan meyera Ingregi shikkha grohan korto parbo. Meyera noshto hoijaibo Ingregi shikhle, tai somaje Begum er biroddhe tibro protibaad shuru hoisil. Kintu taane aaij Bangladesho mainshe je rokom shroddha kore dekhle bhabai jaay na ek din taan bicharer biruddhe ou deshor mainsheu koto nungra kotha koisil.

Otal lagiu taan naam ta shoron korsilam.  


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Shovon Chakraborty on 06/22/05 at 19:38:09
My fingers are itching to write something on this topic. In fact I have been thinking for the last few days and have managed to write more than quite a few pages in notepad. Just before posting, i wanted to go thru the whole matter again. And then it dawned on me, sorbonash!!! Ki sanghathik kotha barta leksi!!! Emnei okhono biya korsi na. Bhobishyote jodi kunudin korar ichha hoi, teile mone hoy aar meyei paitaam na, jodi original write-up ta post kori dei. ;) ;) Baap re baap ;D. Khali ekta gaaner koyekta line lekhlam. Bujho gyani je jano sandhan!

"Jodi bhalobasho sudhu ek jonke
Tobe nischoi bolo I love u
Jodi bhalobasho ekadhik jonke
Tobe dwidha hin hoye thako
nijeke thokiyo nako
chitkar kore bolo bar bar
I love u, I love u, I love u
-------------------------(modhyer line gula lekhlam na karon
-------------------------relevance nai)
Amaar nei kono badhon
Bhalobashbo jokhon tokhon
Karo chokh bhalo laage
Karo mukh bhalo laage
Karo ba choritrer gathan" ;)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: krishanu_bhattjee on 06/23/05 at 00:45:42
Debobroto tumi to dekhi chomotkar englsih lekho....jantam na to...emney to bujha jay na....sotti....khub bhala laglo tumar lekha poria....keep it up....way to go..... :) :)


on 06/20/05 at 14:10:25, Debabrata wrote:
Personally I do like the concept of 'sharirik pobitrota' before marriage -I respect and admire Indian value system. At the age of 27/28 when I find most of my unmarried friends are virgin I don't get surprised. Please don't tell me that this is because of not getting any chance of losing it. Most of my friends are staying outside home and having ample opportunities to lose it. This is because of the values they inherit.

The bondage between husband and wife, brother and sisters in our society  are our   pride. Hook up, one-night-stand, casual sex—these are the very common word in the western society. Being  frustrated of these Hook ups, one-night-stands,casual sex -my western friends are longing for such bondage and long term relationships exist in India..

Those examples from   epics mentioned by Bijli are mere epics written by some human beings. They cannot stand as a testimony of the fact

I would like to mention about ‘noshto meyer noshto godyo’ lekhika  Taslima . I had a chance to read her autobiography "Ka” ( Speak Up) When I was in Dhaka last year. I am/was not a fan of Taslima Nasrin. Though I didn’t miss any of her books. Right from  the 'Nirbachito Kolam’ to 'Nosto Meyer Nost o Gadya', Ammar maye bela.. etc. Her mindset revealed in 'Ka' is consistent with that in other books such as 'Amar Meyebela' and 'Lajja'. I do not subscribe to some of her extremist feminist views, I must admit that I find her writing style quite unique and repect her for not being a Hippocrate.


Taslima discussed about her personal (literary & sex) life in the book. She also touched upon the characters of people she came in touch with. There is a category of people with whom she had sex irrespective of religion or social status. The other category is known as secular (Actually atheists), India-loyal politicians, writers, poets,novelists and cultural artistes. She never had sexual encounters with people who were at odds with her political views. Six persons with whom she had pre and extra-marital sexual affairs were novelist Imdadul Haque Milon, Rudra Mohammad Shahidullah (later her first husband), journalist Naimul Islam Khan (later her second husband)Mohammad Ali Minar aka Minar Mahmud (later her third husband and former Bichinta editor; currently living in the USA), poet Syed HasmaJalal (son of Calcatian litterateur Syed Mustafa Shiraj) and Kaiser  (former Gazipur subdistrict chairman). Among the people who wanted to take her to bed were novelist Syed Shamsul Huq, poet Helal Hafiz, journalist Abu Hasan Shahriar, Mozammel Babu, publisher Khoka, et al.Taslima divulged the dark side of the lives of medical practitioner Shipra & Manu, Shipra & Harun, Neepa & Naheed, Farhad Mazhar & Farida Akhter, poet Shamsur Rahman & Oyshwaryashila (a married hindu housewife) and Mriganka (a 21-year old young hindu man) & Sharifa Khatun (a 58-year old woman).The list goes on………….

Bijli wrote “noshto meyer noshto godyo" er lekhikar moto amader somaje aar jayga thake na. Kintu poroborti kale sei somaj i tader sharan kore garbito hoy”…

Being bold and depict one’s personal life for some cheap fame is not a great achievement. This is just  a clever attempt to stay on the lime light .Tai  “tader sharan kore garbito hoower’ modye aami kuno  mohan  kichhu  khuje pain na.

Aaj jokon sara duniya Indian family system and values niye gobeshona korchhe thokhon those bold ‘Taslima’ and likeminded peoples are playing the extra innings just to stay on focus and create controversy just to sell their concepts. They are backed by the establishments. As Taslima Nasrin is backed by ABP group to make more  business.


Taslima mentioned the names of few distinguished people  Foremost among them were poet Shamsur Rahman.
Here is bit more information about this great womanizer. In a March-April issue (2003) of a fortnightly magazine, Shamsur Rahman admitted, "Although I was attracted to one woman in the beginning, I used to love all types of women, married or unmarried later in my life. I established sexual relationship with several women. Then I deserted them. I don't believe that one has to marry a woman after loving her. Sometimes I think that it is better to love someone but not marry her. I had 6/7 lovers in my life so far. I am indebted to all of them with whom I had love affairs. They gave me a lot - they enriched my thought process. They helped me to write  poems. Love is not bound by age. It is possible to love during old age. Love has a different power. A type of mental strength is required to cope with the surge of strong love. That overpowers the hindrance created by old age." (Daily Inqilab, 22/07/2003).

Those so called intellectuals always defend themselves in the name  of free thoughts and mindset like the way poet Shamsur Rahman did.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/23/05 at 00:56:48

Quote:
Emnei okhono biya korsi na. Bhobishyote jodi kunudin korar ichha hoi, teile mone hoy aar meyei paitaam na, jodi original write-up ta post kori dei.   Baap re baap .
Jauk baba .. keu to thura hasa kotha kowar sahosh failo ... ekhon bujcho ni ba kene manushe topic tar bipokhe lekhe !!! (Besides the 'Angur fol tok' and 'Thakur ghore ke re - ami kola khai na' factor gula chara) ...  ;)

Remember reading somewhere ... the two factors that motivate ppl doing or not doing something by putting special extra efforts, are 1. Fear and 2. Dream.

Off topic:   AXN er Fear factor ta bakka din oi jaar deksi na ...

PS. Aichcha ba, amra to khali amrar motamot loiram ei byapare, what about taking the motamots of ppl who don't come to silchar.com ??? Click here to learn more ... (http://www.hindustantimes.com/news/7242_1408186,00180007.htm)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: mon_amar on 06/23/05 at 01:26:13
great work Saurabh da......now you get the real picture :)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: critiq on 06/23/05 at 01:27:43
Mr. Krishnu, i think u are mistaken....i dont think the message Posted by: Debabrata is his original wriitng. Tookli marse arek website taki.....ou link dilam ono.... parle poria dekio

http://www.titumir.com/Beta/Book_Files/DisplayIndividual.php?bkid=B9848820268


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Doubt? on 06/23/05 at 04:22:34
Feelings ei o tukli ni????? Manush original ni????


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/23/05 at 05:36:41

Quote:
Manush original ni?


Personal attack hoi jaar ba baba Doubt ... amra nu e jinishta avoid kori ino ba ....


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Shankar_Chakravarti on 06/23/05 at 10:29:19


on 06/22/05 at 02:08:35, brown_eyes wrote:
aami aabaar raag kore nebo >:(
Taratari pathao.


Raag  karena  raaguni
Raanga  maathay  chiruni
Bar  aasbe  ekhuni
Niye  jaabe  takhuni


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: brown_eyes on 06/23/05 at 11:03:29


on 06/23/05 at 05:36:41, kigoobe wrote:
Personal attack hoi jaar ba baba Doubt ... amra nu e jinishta avoid kori ino ba ....


Bubuda,
Tumar sense of humour ta osadharon ba dada.Aamaar pet faati jaar tumaar lekhaar dhonge ;D ;D ;D ;D.

Shankarda,
Long time no see ;D.Why didn't you write here for a long time?We miss you a lot in our adda.
Hope you will visit silchar.com more frequently.
Anyways,thanks a lot for reminding that song/chhora. My mother used to sing that for me.
I remember one more song which my mother used to sing for me,
"Moynaar maa Moynamoti Moyna tomaar koi?
Moynaa gechhe shoshurbaari gachher daale oi"
Now,I am sitting on 'gachher daal' ;D ;D and missing my mother a lot  :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(.
 


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Bijili on 06/23/05 at 13:55:47

on 06/23/05 at 00:56:48, kigoobe wrote:
PS. Aichcha ba, amra to khali amrar motamot loiram ei byapare, what about taking the motamots of ppl who don't come to silchar.com

Click here to learn more ... (http://www.hindustantimes.com/news/7242_1408186,00180007.htm)


Thik bakorso Saurav. Aaro aase ni orokom?!!!
                                         


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Shankar_Chakravarti on 06/23/05 at 18:31:55

on 06/23/05 at 11:03:29, brown_eyes wrote:
Shankarda,

Hope you will visit silchar.com more frequently.


Dear brown_eyes,

Thanks for your post,  very happy to know about yourself . ;D I do visit Silchar.com very regularly and enjoy reading all the postings, some of these are really revealing, and most of these are spontaneous expression of youthfulness and vigor. You know  something ?  I was extremely tense when dark cloud of misunderstanding started growing between you and Taar Cheera. Frankly speaking, both of you + another 100-120 persons constitute what I call “Core Group”, who make  the Silchar room worth visiting. I was scared to interfere, lest  one of you will blame me for “taking side”. Now that dazzling silver lining is visible, I want to tell what my father used to tell us, “ Tora nai kotha loia jhogra karos”.

My position in silchar.com is unique in the sense that I didn’t know anybody at the time of joining Silchar.com, some two years back. Till today, not a single person I have ever seen in person, the only person I ever talked to on phone is Taar Cheera, on a Very Auspicious Day to cheer him up. I don’t ping anybody, the email / PM is limited to only 6 persons, that too, only few words of business or greetings. In spite of that, today I know more about many. I maintain a file for many of you, and believe me, all the information is collected from the “net”. Even then, some information  are closely guarded “secrets”, and may be known to 1 or 2 persons only. The longest entry in the diary is for Dr. AKS, ( probably because he is very knowledgeable, which he radiates intensely !).

I haven’t started the diary for any sinister motive. Since initially I didn’t know anybody, I couldn’t understand the postings properly. You must know the age, educational background, job, place of stay, environment etc., to clearly understand that person’s writing, don’t you think so ? However, in turn, I have received very  spontaneous response and love from all of you, some of them I consider closer than my blood relations.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: ravi (Guest / Unregistered user) on 06/23/05 at 20:29:22
Nice posting shankarda. I know that you follow the postings closely. But never thought that you are maintaining a file. It shows your love for the site and for all of us. Indeed, I also never met any one of sil.com buddies, some of whom have become very close friend of mine. I was thinking for many days to propose a meet of the sil.com regular members in the line of reunion of college universities. Keeping in mind the busy life of everyone and that the members are placed at different corners of the globe, it is a difficult thing to moot. Still, I love to think that we all have gathered in a meet, TC, Arua, Dutta, Susmita, bijli, brown eyes, Asitida, sankarda and all. And of course, admin, without whose effort, we wouldn't have known each other.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: synclaire_beauty on 06/23/05 at 21:30:39


on 06/23/05 at 20:29:22, ravi wrote:
Still, I love to think that we all have gathered in a meet, TC, Arua, Dutta, Susmita, bijli, brown eyes, Asitida, sankarda and all. And of course, admin, without whose effort, we wouldn't have known each other.



Its really touching to see emotions streaming out  in this virtual world.
This is the only spice in this site which makes it so different from the other infinite sites. :)
 Am looking forward for the day when I will also be taken into account when considering a get together.....
NO complaints Ravi just yearning for it ;)


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: didibhai on 06/24/05 at 09:36:31
Just back from Italy, but couldn't resist checking out Silchar.com, its, 2.35 am in UK.  

I did read this before, but didn't know whether to put my views forward, but after its revival and the comments on the thread, I feel that I should.

The subject is certainly emotive. Every society is governed by its custom and tradition.  I agree that no law or jurisdiction can be placed on human emotions.  However, as this act of love and desire has serious consequencies, ie of mental, physical, re-production and health,  it has to be curved in some ways.  

The introduction of the marriage institution was such an act to certify and give jurisdiction to a couple to share, love, and reproduce, thereby, sanctifying the act of love and desire.  

But, one does not have delve too far into the past, just take present day examples of pre-marital relationship.  The UK has the largest teenage pregnancy in western Europe.  Girls as young as 10-11 are having babies.  That too with comprehensive sex education in schools.  Promiscuous is an illness of liberalism.

Being brought up in western tradition (since the age of 7) I can honestly say that, one of the best tradition we have carried forward is, our given moral values on relationships, past down through the generation and even being carried across the globe.  Being over zealous about ones desires can be very disappointing and almost damaging.  That opinion comes from experiences my friends have had.  I for one do not favour pre-marital relationship, as I feel that the sanctity of marrige is abolished.

I would like to congratulate Bijili for her Bengali postings, Bijili, you really have alot of patience.  Keep it up.  My Bengali is not as brushed.  Shame on me.  :-[


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Keshto on 06/24/05 at 12:22:48


on 06/23/05 at 18:31:55, Shankar_Chakravarti wrote:
Till today, not a single person I have ever seen in person,


Hehek....Jai ho Shankar Bhagwan...Bom Bhola nath...hehek

Shankar bhagwan ko appun ka thubra pata hain baap....
Appun ne Shankar Bhagwan ko apna photu bhejela...sochela ki do batli daru parsaadi mein mil jayega....lekin........................hehek....kya kare saab memsaab log....Keshto ka kismat :(


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/24/05 at 13:20:32
I think besides Shankarda, who has just come back, another person we are missing in this forum is Asiti-da ... where r u Asitida ???


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Shankar_Chakravarti on 06/24/05 at 13:23:00


on 06/23/05 at 20:29:22, ravi wrote:
Indeed, I also never met any one of sil.com buddies, some of whom have become very close friend of mine. I was thinking for many days to propose a meet of the sil.com regular members in the line of reunion of college universities.


Glad to know that you also feel the same way. :) Sure Ravi,  it is my dream too. It will be an honor & pleasure to have the company of beautiful girl like synclaire_beauty, who will keep us in high spirit with her excellent English,  no?  Everybody is invited. ;D


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: didibhai on 06/25/05 at 05:40:18
I think looking at the present comments the subject of this site should be changed to 'union limited"  ;D ;D ;D

Let's all  meet up, share our telephone numbers, email addresses, home addresses etc, so that you can be sure of a bash up when things go wrong.  ;D ;D ;D ;D


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Shankar_Chakravarti on 06/25/05 at 12:53:20


on 06/25/05 at 05:40:18, didibhai wrote:
I think looking at the present comments the subject of this site should be changed to 'union limited"  ;D ;D ;D

Let's all  meet up, share our telephone numbers, email addresses, home addresses etc, so that you can be sure of a bash up when things go wrong.  ;D ;D ;D ;D



Dear didibhai-didi,
( I was tempted to address  you  by  your (name + didi), but was deterred  to infringe to your privacy.)

I am surprised and glad to see that the “little girl” inside you is now  peeping out. Initially you were giving us a impression that you are  a chosma-wali school mastor moni.( Did I insult  you ? my apology). You told you were a bureaucrat, were you a teacher also ? Now that you are talking more freely, and I sense a lovely Didi is there inside you,   I marshal enough courage to tell you one secret.  50 %  of the visitors here have high IQ ( around 120 ), but some times what they do is pungtami ( within limit of decency, of course). You seem to take some comments very seriously and started replying long answer ( and lost the typing matter in the screen in the process !) ( One unsolicited advice, first type in MS Word, then copy / paste on net ) . Please join us for fun ( we call it time pass), This is a very dedicated site, like an exclusive club, we will love to share our thoughts with you.
Regarding divulging name address tele no. .  OH! Me!!. Here most of us are  musk-wala or musk-wali. Or shall I say bahurupi and bahurupuni ? But personally I feel it is good that way, I don’t know you, you don’t know me. Nobody hurts nobody.  Knowledge, information and opinions are shared freely. Let us have good time pass. Long live Silchar.com


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: Jimut on 06/25/05 at 19:12:35
Jaah !

Ki shanghatik lomba lomba shob postings !!! Matha kharap hoi gelo...
Tumra shobe prochur ghobhir chinta korso that is very evident...personally I'd really not like to comment...actually I'm just too lazy to even think about what my views are...even lazier to type them here...but it feels good to see a lot of people who put in a lot of thought and effort and passionately voice their opinions...

The one thing that I do feel about this topic is:
It really isn't that big a deal...as they say,to each his own.

BTW veering off-topic
Shankar-da
I was amazed to know that you maintain files on people...awesome ! khatarnaak ! maane mind-blowing aarki ! If anyone among the people you track gets involved in some shady deal...taile  police investigation howar pore tumi sure jail-o transfer...sorkari koroche koyek din paid holiday ;D ;D

I also didnt know you were in HM...I would've worked there but didn't join ultimately...actually case ta hoisil je interview shomoy taara jeta jeta jigaila shob aami paari...maane aami nijeu shocked...babhiyar eitto...next question ta sure partam nai..."pass" koi dimu...dekhi oitao paari...ek kothai dream interview...for around 40 minutes I amazed myself and did not miss a single question...maane babhiya dekho...aami faazil kuriya chele...ektao question miss nai...

HM er public khoob khushi...maane eto khushi je shida Production er appointment...aami koto koilam, ita fluke, ami kichchu paari na...factory/machine ita dekhlei amar bomi-bomi kore...dile sales e deo...Ambassador/Lancer/engine bechmu...nah ! taara manlou na :(...amar bule technical knowledge khob bhala so I have to be in production...onek chesta korlam...convince korte parlam na :(...sesh porjonto join korar date er ek maash aage ekta regret letter pathai dilam aarki... :-/


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: didibhai on 06/26/05 at 06:20:28
Dear Shankar da

Thank you for reply.  I am not at all offended.  You are absolutely right, I am choosma wali, and was a bureaucrat, and an adult education tutor also.   But now, I am a small editor of my small magazine as well as other publications.  And I write,  talk alot,  laugh, act silly and stupid. I am sure I don't have an IQ of 120, I think the last digit should be omitted. :'( :'(

I do normally write in word and copy- paste, but that day I didn't sit to reply just browse and got carried away, and away until it disappeared. ;D ;D

I am the eldest sister in my family, hence, 'didibhai'  but I don't think it will be appropriate for you to call me that, please call me by my name, 'Kavita'.  I don't mind anybody knowing my id, as long as it is not reported to
'crime stoppers' ;D ;D

I have a very big joint family here in the UK (28 members).  Most Sylhetis know us.  When we get together we don't sleep. Its laughter, jokes and masti and all important lots of food including shidol all night.

Check out my site if u have time  at  www.mahilamag.com  
its been a while for update online but I am working towards others also.

speak to u soon.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/26/05 at 07:01:15
Nice website 'DidiBhai'


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: didibhai on 06/26/05 at 08:36:22
Thank you Sourav.  Have u read the reply I promised on Secularism?
I was on holiday so the delay.


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: kigoobe on 06/26/05 at 19:28:59
I've seen that Didibhai ... but in fact for different things I have noticed that u and me possess very different view points ... anyway ... in one point I am OK with u that irrespective of what we think, all of us should think to help improve India's socio-political condition, if we can ...

Cheers


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: SHAAM_ on 11/19/05 at 02:49:37
:P
We talked about sex before marriage, but now a day’s(online) extra marital affair is common in house wife because of internet chat, lots of marriage is dissolving. Chat room has a lot to answer 4. It’s like burning in hell. A story :P
After you’ve been to bed together for the fast time, without the advantage or disadvantage of any prior acquaintance, the other party very often say to you.Tell me
About yourself, I want to know all about you, what’s your story? And you think maybe they really and truly do. Sincerely want to know your life story, and so you lite up a cigarette and begin to tell it to them, the two of you lying together in completely relaxed positions like a pair of rag dolls a bored child dropped on a bed. You tell them your story, or as much of your story as time or a fair degree of prudence allows, and they say, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, each time a little more faintly, until the oh is just an audible breath, and then of course there’s some interruption. Slow room service comes up with a bowl of melting ice cubes, or one of you rise to pee and gaze at himself with mild astonishment in the bathroom mirror. And then the fist thing you know ,before you’ve had time to pick up where you left off with your enthralling life story, they’re telling you their life story, exactly as they’d intended to all along, and you’re saying, oh,oh,oh,oh,oh, each time a little more faintly, the vowel at last becoming no more then an audible sigh, as the elevator, halfway down the corridor and a turn to the left, draws one last, long , deep breath of exhaustion and stops breathing forever. Then? Well, one of you falls asleep and the one does likewise with a lighted cigarette in his mouth, and that’s how people burn to death from Internet chat room, in to hotel rooms :P

Shaam ;D


Title: Re: sex before marriage
Post by: admin on 11/20/05 at 04:29:35
Locking this topic. So available for reading but no more posts here ... !

I dont think this will be a problem as most of the messages on this thread is not related to the topic.

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